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Times and Seasons

About two months ago, I was standing in line at Starbucks in a hotel waiting to order decaf coffee.

A lady had just placed her order and was waiting to pick up her stuff when she ran into some old friends. Let's call this lady, Lady A. They started talking about their children.

Lady A talked about how her daughter had just graduated in flying colors and was starting some job or had already gotten a job.  She gushed over how her daughter was helping out with this bill and that.

The other ladies looked on in awe. When lady A finally left the group, they began to talk among themselves. "Oh, do you remember Lady A from way back?
Her daughter is doing very well. She's graduated and is supporting her parents."

One of them laughed. She said, "Wow, look at that and I'm here still chasing after my teenage kids and dealing with paying school fees."

I flinched because comparing  myself with others is a personal rule I have set for myself to not indulge in.

One of the ladies said, "Yes, that's right. You were busy enjoying your single life. You weren't ready to settle down. We had to force you to marry the man you're currently married to."

I flinched again. Since I was standing right behind them. I heard everything. I couldn't help saying "Well, everyone's time is different." The lady I was trying to defend didn't really acknowledge what I was saying.

Served me right for bumping into a conversation that wasn't my business in the first place!

Does it ever feel like everyone has left you behind? All your friends have thriving careers and are directors and VPs. You are at the bottom end of the ladder after trying hard to attain success.  You are living from paycheck to paycheck while your peers are living in abundance and enjoying their lives.

Maybe it just feels like the world has moved on and left you behind! Maybe all your colleagues have children and you are still waiting for your miracle baby. It's been years of waiting, you've gone for various tests, tried everything you know to try and yet, nothing!

Maybe all your friends are married and you are still struggling with being single after such a long time. Maybe sometimes, it feels like someone pulled a huge sack over you and you just feel very invisible in a world that you should be dominating and thriving in?

Do you believe in Time and Seasons?
Do you believe that your life is so different from Mr or Mrs X's?

Due to the assignment you've been put on earth for, your life might just look like a bundle of contradictions!

I'm a believer in time and chance. At an appointed time, your dreams will come to fruition and your entire life will make sense. It may even amuse others.

I'm a spiritual person so I see life from a spiritual point of view. Do you believe that all things are working together for your good? That as long as you partner with the one who created you, everything will fall into place for you?

How are you managing your season or seasons of contradiction? How are you holding hope and keeping the faith?

I would love to hear from you.

Xoxo.........


Comments

Miss Onakz said…
Life, the one place you realise that there are really no mates. Everyone has their race to run. Everyone is an individual.
That’s what I tell myself regularly now, “I’m in competition with nobody. Whether I win now or later, I’m glad to live my own life.”
April 12, 2020 at 1:32 PM
Debbie Ade said…
Yep, our faces are different and so are our journeys on earth.

To thine own self, be true :-)
April 17, 2020 at 2:46 PM
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